I do not intend to deny luck.
Some people are born into money, allowing them to lead their lives steps ahead.
Some wind up amassing wealth scratching cards.
Some talk about being in the right time and the right place.
But if you come from nothing and worked for everything, being called ‘lucky’ can be dismissive of the journey you went through to be where you are. It implies that your success is brought by chance rather than by your own actions. It minimalizes your achievements as if you don’t deserve what you have.
Being called lucky can be hurtful.
But instead of deflating like a balloon or evaporating into thin air whenever someone calls you ‘lucky’, remember these:
- Behind the curtain of ‘luck’ many have become fond of to explain your success is an empowered person who climbed mountains against all odds.
- You have reached places and heights because you dreamt, set goals, and focused. Not because you were simply in the right place and right time.
- You are surrounded with like-minded people because you chose to be with them, you defined and nurtured relationships with them. Not because you accidentally met the right people.
- You searched for opportunities, problems to solve, and ways to improve things. No one left a box full of gifts at your doorstep.
- You decided to be a ‘learn-it-all’ than ‘know-it-all’ person. Your knowledge, talents and skills didn’t get magically absorbed by your whole persona.
- You pick yourself up. Because you know you learned, you didn’t fail.
- You show up. Not because someone told you. Because you know experience teaches you important life lessons.
- You soar. Not because someone gave you wings to fly. Because you know how to break free from cages that are either self-made or circumstantial.
You might be privileged to have a supportive family. You might be living in a safe and secure environment. Some people might see these as added elements of luck. But the truth is, you didn’t just get lucky. You made things happen.